Considering remarriage? Check out this list of do’s and don’ts

No matter your age, developing and maintaining loving relationships requires effort. However, remarrying later in life often presents some special considerations. The following is advice for those who are thinking about dating or remarrying.
   
–Do pray and focus on being in the will of God. 
   
–Don’t pursue relationships or focus solely on being married, but be open to the Lord’s plan for your life.
   
–Do remarry for love, not for company or security.
   
–Don’t keep secrets. Be honest and open with your new spouse.
   
–Don’t try to build on what used to be or compare the new relationship to the old. A new marriage is a new beginning.
   
–Do consider counseling. A good counselor can help both individuals come to terms with the past and look toward the future. 
   
–Don’t think of yourself as turning your back on your first mate. He or she will always have a place in your heart. 
   
–Don’t forget your responsibility to your new spouse. Tensions may arise during the transition from the old life to the new, but support your spouse in the oneness of marriage.
   
–Do consider finding a new home together. A home shared with a previous spouse may hold too many reminders of your former life. A new start can head off potential problems. 
   
–Do go to church together and consider finding a new church or Sunday School class together as a couple. Sometimes old friends will continue to reminisce about the past, which can negatively affect a new relationship. Remember, you are building a future, not a bridge to the past. 
   
–Do make a new will and discuss financial matters. Come to an understanding about the ownership of property and arrangements for life insurance policies, retirement funds and other possessions prior to your marriage.
   
–Do thank God for your new spouse and family.