John 15:9–14

Bible Studies for Life 
Director, Resource Center for Pastoral Excellence, Samford University

STICK WITH LOVE

John 15:9–14

It is a paradox of the time in which we live: though we are more connected than ever, loneliness is at epidemic proportions. A 2014 study published in American Sociological Review presented findings from interviews with 1,500 individuals regarding social isolation. One in 4 indicated they had no one with whom they could talk about problems or other life situations. When family members were excluded as resources for such conversations the number grew. More than half said they had no one outside their families with whom they could share their hurts and hopes.

Sadly the study was statistically valid and applicable to the larger population. We are almost constantly connected to others through social media and other technologies, yet in reality many of us feel more disconnected than ever before. We have few persons with whom we are in meaningful relationships of friendship, encouragement or help in times of need.

This unit of lessons invites us to think about necessary actions in which we must engage if we truly want to be in meaningful relationships with one another.

Love for others is to be grounded in God’s love. (9–10)

You may have heard a saying that goes something like this, “The Bible says I have to love others but it doesn’t say I have to like them.” This kind of attitude is for many a gaping pothole on the pathway to discipleship. John’s Gospel says much about the kind of living that is pleasing to God and reflects one’s relationship with Jesus. We are called upon to love everyone because God demonstrated love for all persons, so much so that God chose the death of His much loved Son to make the point. John says our relationship with Christ should be like a vine with branches. The only way the branches thrive is by staying connected to the vine. “Abide in My love,” Jesus said. Other ways to understand what Jesus meant can be expressed in the statements “remain in My love; be an advocate on behalf of My love; and be a living example of My love.” 

“Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen” (John 4:20). What would our complicated, exciting world of possibility and peril be like if all humanity simply followed this teaching? What would my life and relationships be like if I followed this teaching?

Love for others is to mirror Jesus’ love for us. (11–12)

How do we experience full and meaningful relationships? Earlier in John’s Gospel we read of the disciples and Jesus gathering for the Last Supper. There Jesus gave them a new commandment, to love one another. It was a game-changing, parting word. After His ascension, persons would come to follow Jesus because they saw His disciples living with love toward each other — and others. “These things I have spoken … that your joy may be full” (v. 11). In other words if Christians want to experience joy that is complete, fulfilling and all that joy can mean, love in action is essential. The power of the risen Christ within each of us gives us the capacity to love our neighbor even as we love God. Why do we often choose not to do this?

Love for others means sacrifice. (13–14)

The word translated “friend” in these verses is the Greek word “phileo.” John’s Gospel uses this word and the word for “love” (agapao) interchangeably. When Jesus says those who act to keep His commandments are His friends, He is saying they are those who love Him. Jesus put His words into action when He gave His life at Calvary.